There have been recent articles about what it's like to be beautiful, and in at least one case a British woman says she caught hell because of it. She says other women resent her for being attractive. Maybe. Psychology, Sociology and Anthropology have looked at this issue.
When a person is unusually attractive, some "good" things happen:
1. You get higher pay for equal work, proportionate to your level of attractiveness.
2. You get better jobs to start with.
3. Bail is set lower for you.
4. You more easily influence others.
5. You are thought to be more socially adept.
6. You get more social invitations.
7. People believe you have high self-esteem.
8. You are assumed to have a host of additional positive traits even though there are no bases on which to make those assumptions (the Halo effect).
There are a few downsides to being very attractive:
1. You have less assurance that people are attracted to the insides of you.
2. People hit on you. It's not that great after a while.
3. The assumptions people make about the additional qualities you have are ones you will feel compelled to pretend you possess.
4. If you are a female who is beautiful, you will not be taken seriously.
The one thing that's worse than being beautiful is being beautiful and rich. Then you have additional hurdles in finding someone who likes you just for you. I know rich people who are incredibly lonely for this very reason.
I will never know the agony of being rich or of being beautiful, but if anyone wants to unburden themselves from the chains of their wealth, I will make the supreme sacrifice to take over that responsibility.
When a person is unusually attractive, some "good" things happen:
1. You get higher pay for equal work, proportionate to your level of attractiveness.
2. You get better jobs to start with.
3. Bail is set lower for you.
4. You more easily influence others.
5. You are thought to be more socially adept.
6. You get more social invitations.
7. People believe you have high self-esteem.
8. You are assumed to have a host of additional positive traits even though there are no bases on which to make those assumptions (the Halo effect).
There are a few downsides to being very attractive:
1. You have less assurance that people are attracted to the insides of you.
2. People hit on you. It's not that great after a while.
3. The assumptions people make about the additional qualities you have are ones you will feel compelled to pretend you possess.
4. If you are a female who is beautiful, you will not be taken seriously.
The one thing that's worse than being beautiful is being beautiful and rich. Then you have additional hurdles in finding someone who likes you just for you. I know rich people who are incredibly lonely for this very reason.
I will never know the agony of being rich or of being beautiful, but if anyone wants to unburden themselves from the chains of their wealth, I will make the supreme sacrifice to take over that responsibility.
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