I happened to see an episode of the newest Bachelorette wherein a female dentist (or dental student; I can't figure out which) is putting bachelors through the paces to demonstrate that they, too are as vapid as she is. Does anyone see how shallow her emotional depth seems to be? Does anyone notice that she is doing everything she can from becoming close to any of these guys (I see things like this very easily, probably because I have spent a long time practicing this as a therapist, or maybe for other reasons as well)? When she was on the bachelor, she pulled the same M.O.. She always managed to distance herself by questioning the bachelor's motive and by avoiding any real connective discussions with him.
How come I am so interested in this? Well, for one thing, I spent six years with a shallow, distancing dentist, and it was eerily similar to the TV show, only in my ex's case there was no emotional honesty or intimacy from her end. Nice on the surface, and no depth beneath. I still attempt, at times, to ascertain why I even began that relationship. I can only guess that at that time I was in need of superficiality; that I, too was hiding and saw in her a way to stay distant, safe, and ultimately unhappy.
I think we all struggle with the very real anxiety that intimacy engenders.
Oh, well, let it go, let it go, for Christ's sake, let it go.
How come I am so interested in this? Well, for one thing, I spent six years with a shallow, distancing dentist, and it was eerily similar to the TV show, only in my ex's case there was no emotional honesty or intimacy from her end. Nice on the surface, and no depth beneath. I still attempt, at times, to ascertain why I even began that relationship. I can only guess that at that time I was in need of superficiality; that I, too was hiding and saw in her a way to stay distant, safe, and ultimately unhappy.
I think we all struggle with the very real anxiety that intimacy engenders.
Oh, well, let it go, let it go, for Christ's sake, let it go.
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